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Ephesians 5:33

So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

It’s so true when the Bible says this. Husband desires respect from their wife, and wife desires love from their husband. This is so important for the guys that we girls cannot afford to miss this point. We ought to respect our hubbies with our words, actions and of course everything spans right from the heart.

I feel sometimes I can be critical of my hubbie too. There was one night that Sam had cooked a curry dish. Normally, curry was not my highest preference amongst all the choices of food. Particularly when I already had curry the night before, I wanted to have something more mild and less-flavoured for dinner. Sam took the initiative to cook dinner for the night. He did the hard work because I was too tired from work that night. When it’s time for dinner,  I sat at the dinner table and became a little whiny! “The rice is too dry.” Those were the first words that uttered from my mouth and I didn’t say a thing afterwards. Sam was silent and I knew… Uh-oh… what was I doing! Not wise!

There is power in our words. Our words can tear our husbands down and at the same time, it can also build them up. A wife’s respect can build up the confidence of a husband. If they feel they don’t have the respect from their closest partner, the feeling of “failure” can creep in and they may stop trying all together! We are called to be a helper, and we should use our wordss wisely and build them up! Being critical doesn’t build anything. I’m not saying we can’t be honest with our hubby, but God gave us wisdom to discern the right timing and also words of encouragement to bring the best out of our hubby.

I also have to say, we have to respect our hubby in public, in private, as well as when we are hanging out with our girlfriends. There’s nothing worse than doing one thing when the hubby is around, and have a complaint session when hanging out with the girlfriends.  Integrity is on the line here.

Ultimately, respect comes out from the heart. Actions come from the attitude of the heart. Therefore, like with all things in life, as we develop a deeper and more intimate relationship with God, we will see things from His perspective more and more! Our doing will simply be an outflow of our being.