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Thinking about the position of wife in a marriage, and that leads me to Kevin J. Conner’s book “The Ministry of Women”. I still haven’t finished reading it because you will probably spend 5 minutes pondering each page! There are so much to talk about Adam and Eve and how women is put under the leadership of men after the fall… but that will be for a later blog…

God created man first before woman. God’s divine order is man then woman, note that order doesn’t mean superior/inferior here, it’s simply order of 1-2-3.

During the fall, Eve gave the “fruit” to Adam. She ate it first. She became the first sinner. The woman sinned by taking the fruit from the tree. Man sinned in taking the fruit from the woman, his wife. If woman is created as a helper to the man, this woman is surely not being a helper to him. She has “lead” him into sin. The “divine order” has flipped.

Why on earth did Adam listen to Eve? He clearly knows that God told him not to have that fruit, but he listened to his wife rather than standing firm on the instructions given by God. Maybe Adam was trying to please his wife, because listening to her and doing what she says makes her happy?

Sometimes women can be like Eve, not saying we lead men into sin, but taking things into our own hands. If Eve had even thought about asking Adam’s opinion, maybe things will turn out different. Do we push something into our husband’s face that it’s almost impossible for him to say no? Do we subconsciously always think our way is always better because it has worked before? Have we actually created space for our men to lead? Or even perhaps, we want to “win” in the relationship?

After the Elevate camp with Jim McMillan, I decided to journal publicly on the topic of “Being a wife.”

I will write things as thoughts come in, as I read on God’s words, podcasts that I encounter with, thoughts from books etc etc. Please do leave a comment or feedback too, it’s good to hear what other people think. We can all learn together! Even more so, the experienced ones can share their gold nuggets too:)

I did a quick search on Google just on the word “wife” and came back with top results such as:  cheating wife, swapping wife, free Australia wife and tons of inappropriate images. I have to quickly close that website without even clicking into those links!

How on earth does people know how to be a wife if they didn’t get in touch with the original creator of man/woman relationship?

In my first month of marriage after all the whirlwind celebrations. I remember asking myself, am I being a good wife? There are teachings in the Bible, stuff you can learn from your Mum; but it really only make true sense when you are actually IN it.

I pray that God will teach me daily how to be a wife because I know this is one of the most important things that I can ever do. Marriage makes a home, a home makes a family, families make society.